Ghosting & Pluto is the Deed and Neptune is the Result©

 Sandra Helton Copyright2023 

Ghosting is the social phenomenon of suddenly terminating all communication with someone and relatively more common in this era of prolific technology. It’s basically ignoring someone with varying effects and usually emotionally painful for the ghosted. More accepted now as an aspect of social behavior people are adjusting to the reality ranging from responses of uncaring to shock and rage. The question is why someone chooses such behavior and certainly it’s a controlling factor either from necessity if there are compound negative associations or if someone enjoys knowing the ghosted is hurt.

Sadistic aspects of ghosting is choosing to do it as a reckless act that says to the ghosted they don’t matter, they’re not worth the effort to maintain any form of basic civil association and simply, they’re gone.

This is part of the social structure of Pluto in Aquarius along with shifts such as AI (artificial intelligence) and now computer technology as a primary lifestyle. Pluto is totalitarianism with governance over death, transmutation and wherever there’s regeneration. Ghosting certainly suggests, “You don’t exist”.

Analyzing planetary energy the governor of ghosting is Neptune as it relates to disappearance. Other factors may be represented by planets if ghosting is a form of subversion and covert aggression. All planets have a higher and lower octave and in this scenario is about invisibility, the unknown and there but not there. Reasons to ghost someone vary ranging from someone not wanting to follow social protocol to intentionally wanting to hurt another. From emotional lack to sadism the gamut happens which furthers the mystery of it all. There are instances of abuse that triggers someone to cut-off all connection to the abuser, however, this general discussion is more about the unusual act when generally there’re other options to ending associations. I’ve seen varying cases where someone is shocked that another has ghosted them without knowing why and other dynamics where the association is too unbearable to endure so totally going cold seems the only way of relief. Somewhere in the middle is the greater reality that ghosting is more common these days and a lazy way to behave.

Other than possibly not knowing what else to do the majority of Ghosters can have a range of issues such as Low Emotional Intelligence, Bipolar Disorder, Alexithymia, Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Avoidant Personality Disorder among other issues. Regardless of the internal cause for such behavior the choice is still an action with consequences.

Ways to work through the abuse are numerous.

Neptune is the fog, the illusion and all manner of distortion and nothing as it seems. Currently it transits through Pisces, the sign it rules so is set well to manifest its strongest influence. With that reality it’s natural to want answers and yet, there’s no rationale when the recipient of abnormal behavior. You may want to sort through potential reasons but the base line is that ghosting is based on deception so answers may only lead to further deceitfulness. Ghosters will readily present a story hoping it will quell the call for truth. People are busy, sick, going through something and so on and hope one of the excuses will deflect for their personal responsibility.

A few ideas to help lessen the emotional pain inflicted by a Ghoster is to first see the reality that, it is what it is, and finding reasons or learning other dynamics doesn’t change the fact that there’s no longer a way to communicate. Allow yourself the right to feel hurt so that you can begin to heal from the shock. If you don’t know why it happened you might ask yourself if it really matters that it happened because it matters more that you need to realign your energy on yourself and take time to do what makes you feel okay and good. You may feel better by reaching out but then again you might feel worse which is your choice that’s a risk. Indulge in what you love that can be anything from simply enjoying a cup of coffee in the morning to being involved in a enriching activity. This helps to avoid dwelling on it and helps to remind you that there are others things and people in your life. Let go that will make room for other feelings, people and activities to fill the gap that helps to heal. Turn to what gives you solace that’s Jupiter energy. Healing, positivity, joy and goodness are aspects of this giant planet that is multi-faceted. I’ve known three people who ghost and all have lives filled with chaos and drama and both have a disordered mind that thrives on excitement. As well, both often dramatize to have a reason to keep attention on them. They can offer the pretense of caring that’s the ticket to their being most important. They each if necessary stretch “their” reality to include the paranormal to maintain the excitement and need to maintain being the center of attention. That type of delusion is also Neptune energy because it moves into the realm of fantasy and possibly delusion.

If someone ghosts another knowing they’re causing anguish and hurt they fall more toward sadism with the planet Mars involved which is the planet of aggression and weapons such as knives, etc. If a Ghoster is hoping to sneak past their victims unnoticed they may be unable to cope with life in general. A Ghoster that knows they’re causing some kind of debilitation such as workplace issues, Saturn, the planet of suppression is involved. Should a Ghoster cause being stranded (as being left on the side of the road) then Pluto is active since it governs death to existing circumstances. Very often someone who ghosts acts out other behaviors than may not be realized by the victim and part of a dark behavior pattern. If they do it once they’re likely to do it again. In a way it’s like a reverse stalker but in the beginning they are a stalker as they court others through charm and beguilement and then they strike.

If you feel the need to analyze what happened then maybe you might begin by determining the level of commitment, past and present, followed by consistency of association. Declaration of friendship lends an expectation of mutual support and regular connections such as getting together on a regular basis established an expectation as well. It’s a way to level the betrayal though doesn’t change the outcome. Taking about it can help and also noting specifics about how you feel right now.